Beware of the person trapped in addictions, capable of seriously damaging or disabling a relationship. Not just the big ones we hear about: drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, sex or porn. Any activity, substance, object, or behavior that is a controlling focus of a person’s life can be an addiction: shopping, fitness, sports, etc. And all addictive behaviors disrupt and poison relationships. When you’re in a relationship with an addict, his or her addiction will always take priority over you. Nobody is completely free of habits, traits or compulsions. But steer clear of dating people who consistently elevate their hobbies, habits or happenings above their relationships. You’re not likely to win that competition, so drop out the game and move on before you get hurt.