5 Reasons Why Lasting Love Is Really Friendship on Fire

"Is consistent when romance is not."

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Contrastingly, secular relationship wisdom seeks to etch God out of the very relationship He designed. This creates a problem because it promotes a culture that wants the fire, desire and sex outside of the context of marriage. But when the passion flickers, the young couple show readers how to keep the flame going, “On the one hand you have the passion that’s supposed to be there in marriage, and yet it’s not simply passion it’s something that’s deep rooted in something that’s long lasting….committed love based on choice not just feelings," Duguid shares. "The Song of Solomon puts passion in a deeply committed context. One man, one woman for a life time.”

"More than chores and bills."

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Duguid warns that if not careful couples can begin to view marriage as a business relationship. He offers the illustration of the couple from the musical Fiddler on the Roof. When Golde is asked by her husband if she loves him, she runs down a laundry list of chores she’s done faithfully for him for the past twenty five years. But is this really love? Duguid says no, “If we lose the passion part we will miss out on the fact that marriage is intended to be a passionate and sexually fulfilling relationship outside of the rigor of daily life.” He says giving up too early on this in marriage often leads to partners looking “outside” of marriage to meet this need.