Don’t aim for perfection at home, look for effort. If a kid only gets praise when they achieve something in sports or school, they will learn that is it. Culture wields this weapon and society allows it. Perfection is a dangerous for kids as they believe nothing will be good enough. Nip that in the bud.
Dr. Jim Taylor wrote inPsychology Today that the word “perfection” needs to be taken out. Use excellence. Excellence takes all of the good aspects of perfection (e.g., achievement, high standards, disappointment with failure) and leaves out its unhealthy parts (e.g., connecting achievement with self-esteem, unrealistic expectations, fear of failure). Excellence still sets the bar high, but it never connects failure with the love you give your children (or the love they give themselves).”