"Don't You Feel Like You Are Losing Yourself"
Sometimes, but then I fight back. I read, I exercise, I learn to do new things. I refuse to become simply Mrs. Mom. My name is Amy Nielson. I am a wife, a mother and an evolving human being. I am a budding gardener, an improving chef, a growing writer, a musician and a wannabe scientist. My interests reach across many subjects, and much like you, I long to have my growth recognized and appreciated.
Now to be clear, I'm not expecting the women of the world to rise up as one and exit the workforce. I respect your right to your own beliefs, your own intuition, and your own judgement. I could not possibly know your situation or what has led to the decisions you make. All that I am asking is that you show respect for my decisions, my life, my fight. Don't insult or demean my career of choice. Be happy for me. Support me. Lift me up.
So, what should you say to a stay-at-home mom? How about, "Good for you for making that work," "What lucky kids you have," or, "That's amazing! I hope your kids appreciate you for what you do." After all, the little people we work for may not be able to understand our monumental efforts and sacrifices, but a little bit of recognition from our friends and neighbors or even strangers can go a long way to helping us feel validated in the difficult life choice that we make to stay home with our kids.