6 Things Every Pregnant Woman Wishes Her Husband Knew l Things Men Need to Know l Dealing With Mom

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We are feeling bloated, tired, sick and resentful that our hubbies don't have to carry around a human being the size of a basketball in their bodies. We are a force to be reckoned with and to put it bluntly--we can be a lot to handle. Admittedly, guys are the victims in this as an expectant mom can be unpredictable and demanding. As a couple, we need to discard perfection immediately and enter into the recognition that nothing is simple, including a pregnancy. "The fastest way to break the cycle of perfectionism and become a fearless mother is to give up the idea of doing it perfectly - indeed to embrace uncertainty," author Arianna Huffington explained. All of us need to start espousing the uncertainty in our lives and pregnancy is just another goal to tackle. But we need to navigate it together. Here are 6 things every pregnant woman wants her husband to know.

Be Understanding

We may be tempestuous one moment and the next moment we may be crying over a reality television show. We just want to be understood even if you can't figure us out. We are feeling limited at this time and are controlled by our emotions. Heck, we don't even get what is going on! However, it's not just about us. If you are feeling confounded, leave for a moment and breathe deep for 5 minutes. If you are calm then we will be more collected as well. We have a choice to allow emotions to divide us or to unite us. This is where you can come in and show understanding, even if you don't know where the ride is taking you. If we are all honest, no one knows exactly what to do, but understanding goes a long way.

Make Us Feel Attractive

Please repeat the question again. Oh, let us do it for you. You asked after dinner "Why do you look so tired?" Of course, we look tired. We haven't slept in days because we need to pee every hour. We can't get comfortable in the bed because of our bump and we also work during the day, so yes, we're not dazzling. The thought of putting makeup on is not worth it since most of it becomes smeared from crying. We can't even pretend to be perfect anymore because again, we're tired. The gal that you once knew has vacated for the moment. Most likely she will return, but until then, love us through the messy hair and our unpolished faces. If we can agree on this, we're on the right track.

We Are Scared

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The transition into motherhood is one of the most frightening things a woman can experience. It may take up to a year for a mom to settle into a comfortable routine again. Not only are we scared--we are apprehensive about our future. If the mom is going through depression during her pregnancy, her fear could be heightened. Between 15 and 20 percent of new moms, about 1 million women in the U.S. each year, experience some form depression during pregnancy. The best bet here is to assume altogether that your wife is scared about the life-changing event as there are many variables to consider. Take time to encourage her to work and talk through any fears that are surfacing.