How many other people do or do not do it?
So, you desperately needed to get the house clean or were willing to sell your soul for 30 minutes of peace and quiet so you could get the bills paid. It is raining, so you cannot send your child outside. You do not have time to arrange a playdate, and all her friends are out of town anyway. You loathe the idea of paying for a babysitter to come by for less than an hour, and you really do not have time to track one down anyway. So, you plop your baby girl in front of the TV and turn on “Moana.” You breathe a sigh of relief for the first 10 minutes. The following 50 are spent feeling like a monster for letting the TV babysit your child. Everything you read says you need to limit children’s exposure to such things!
Before you panic, ask yourself, “How common is this behavior really?” If you let the TV babysit your daughter every day for hours at a time, there might be a problem. An hour or two here and there so you can get some work done will probably not do any harm. Also think about how common it is among other mothers. Popular does not necessarily equate with good or right, but if 70 percent of the mothers you know are not worried about feeding their children store bought granola bars instead of homemade ones, you are probably in the clear if you let your child have a store bought snack.