Be a Good Listener
Children know their strengths better than anyone, but to get them to communicate you need to listen effectively. Ask some questions, avoiding questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no. Show your child you are interested in her perspective. For every answer you get, follow up with another question, asking "Why do you think that?" Genuinely listen and reflect back to your child what you believe you heard her say. If a child tells you he no longer wants to play soccer, rather than tell him why he should continue, say, "I hear you saying soccer no longer interests you--can you tell me why?"