Sleeping with the Enemy
Try and visualize the things you love about yourself…… your passions, your natural talents that the Lord has so graciously blessed you with. Think about your role in your family and friends life.. What makes you come alive? The way it feels when you laugh, your carefree spirit. Your style… How you are wonderfully and uniquely made.. Now think about your physical features.. your smile, your eyes, the way you bite your lip when you are nervous ( that is actually me). Think about what you contribute to this world.. Your intelligence, your warm heart, the way you love to nurture others…..Do you love to cook? Do you appreciate a good wine? Do you love to paint, travel, listen to music? Now that you have a good visual of all those wonderful qualities that make you, YOU.
Picture this…Think about who you are right now! How does your partner really treat you? Is he honest? Did he lie to you again and then blatantly blamed you for being the liar? Did his dismissiveness leave you feeling “less than” and shut down once again? Think about your interactions with him where you were left feeling more alone and more unsafe. Does he say things to you like you are crazy when you address his disrespect? Does he come across as he if he is above you? You find yourself over time feeling more desperate and wanting someone, anyone to stand up for you… To say, “hey she is a human being stop treating her this way” but it is just silence and quite frankly no one wants a part of that “drama.” You are becoming more and more isolated. How did you get here? Do other’s see what you see? You are a shell of who you once were. People who care about you are noticing the dark circles under your eyes, the loss of weight but you just smile and say “I am fine!” You cry at the drop of a hat and feel embarrassed so you apologize for crying and say ” I must be tired.”
You are no longer the woman that you used to be! But know that you are not alone.. Let’s begin by breaking down the traits so if you are in this type of destructive relationship, you can see it here in black and white and begin to acknowledge and recognize this hell...