Lies People Believe About Sex (And What the Bible Really Says!)

What does God want?

It’s OK to Have Sex as Long as You’re in Love ~ “ Sex outside of marriage is always going to result in a mess,” writes Martin. “I’m not trying to be crass here. I’m trying to say that sex creates a spiritual and emotional bond meant for marriage. When we have sex with the spouse God intended for us – within the context of marriage – it comes without the high cost of depression, emptiness, and shame. It comes in its most pure, amazing, mind-blowing form. But to experience the truth, we have to let go of the lie that sex is OK as long as you’re in love. You’re going to be left with the baggage it creates. Sex doesn’t have to come with a price tag.”

What does God want?

Waiting is for Wusses ~ ” To wait or not to wait? That was the question,” writes Martin. “I’d heard people talk about ‘purity’ and ‘saving yourself.’ But to be honest, it all sounded a little lame to me. What if I really loved someone? Waiting seemed like a wussy thing to do. Wasn’t the risk of getting caught – the risk of something unexpected happening –half the thrill of having sex? But what if I was fooling myself? What if the truly risky thing was having the guts to believe that someone out there was the one for me physically – and emotionally? So to all out there who are tempted to believe that maybe, just maybe, waiting isn’t for wusses and that waiting is worth the risk, I’m here to say this is the bare naked truth: When you find the person God has in mind for you, it will be worth all the waiting in the world.”

What does God want?

Sex is OK as Long as It’s Safe ~ “Choose to walk away when you feel tempted,” writes Martin. “Run. Get away. Don’t put yourself in a position to decide whether you need to use a condom. Don’t get alone with a person you find attractive. You can’t do this running thing alone. You are putting one foot in front of the other and leaving the situation. In the process, you are not only leaving behind what might harm you, you’re running toward something better. I know it’s hard to do. But it’s worth it. ‘Flee from lust’ (1 Timothy 6:11). When you give your heart, mind, body, and soul to Jesus, your attempts to run toward his best for you will succeed. His plans for you are for good and not for evil – to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).”

What does God want?

I Don’t Have to Decide Now ~ “ A lot of us are walking through life with our proverbial earplugs in,” writes Martin. “We’re so saturated in our sex-crazed culture that our senses are numbed. Things we might have questioned before now don’t even register. But life will eventually sneak up on us. And if we’re not prepared – if we haven’t decided what to do in a tempting situation beforehand – we might as well just kiss our ideals good-bye. Setting a resolution isn’t enough. You need to tell someone about what you’ve resolved. In fact, don’t just tell anyone: Tell someone (or more than one person) who will keep you accountable.”

What does God want?

“The Choice is Yours!” writes Martin in The Bare Naked Truth: Dating, Waiting, and God’s Purity Plan . “The maker of the world said, ‘It is not good for . . . man [or woman] to be alone’ (Genesis 2:18). He made us with this hole in our hearts to be filled. You have a Gentle Shepherd who desires the best for you, who wants you to make the right choices. In the long run, your decision is going to free you to enjoy sex the way it’s supposed to be. You’ll have a life that is free from fear of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and, most of all, free from the emotional baggage that accompanies sex outside of marriage.”