When you decide to intentionally train your children in good manners, you may be tempted to say, “Listen up, everyone. Changes are coming! Here’s a list of twenty-five manners that I want us all to start using today.” Can you say, “short circuit?” The all-at-once approach leads to failure every time. A different approach is to prayerfully consider what area of manners will make the most noticeable difference in the way your child views himself and interacts and respond’s to others. Pick the area (conversations, kind words, dining, first impressions, and such) and begin there. Pick out the top three manners in that area and when your child gets those three correct about half the time, add on one or two more skills. In this way they make slow but steady and sure progress.
How do you introduce a manner?