7 Steps for Mending A Family Feud

Begin to heal the relationship

Agree to spend some time together, but create boundaries by agreeing that you're not allowed to bring up the source of the feud for at least 90 days. Take those 90 days to focus on reconnecting and rebuilding the relationship instead, even if it means you need to start with some superficial conversations while you both get back on solid footing with one another. Start talking about things that don’t matter, because if you can’t learn to talk about things that don’t matter, you’ll never be able to talk about things that do matter. After 90 days, examine the issue. Hopefully you'll have found some middle ground, and the value of the relationship will be more important by then.