Now, in all reality, if creating a healthy family was as simple as saying the words, “I Love Jesus,” we all would have done it a long time ago. If you really want to get into the nuts and bolts of what makes a family thrive, it’s when a family discovers the power of mutual submission. Here’s what Paul writes:
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus." Philippians 2:3-5
Here’s why that last line is important, having the same mindset as Christ Jesus. If you want to improve your family, you have to learn how to submit, how to humbly place the other members of your family above yourself. That’s how God designed it. Problem is, it goes against the very sin nature inside of us. It’s incredibly hard to submit yourself, to consider other people, even if they’re family members that you love, as more important than yourself. Under your own power it’s humanly impossible, which is why you need to the power of God.
When Paul tells husbands and wives to submit to each other and children to submit to their parents in Ephesians 5-6, it’s immediately after Paul talks about the importance of being filled with the Spirit. You’re not strong enough on your own to submit. You’re too selfish, and your sinful tendencies are too powerful. That’s why you need the Spirit of God. So when you love Jesus more, you discover a power strong enough to help you do the hard work of humbling yourself and submitting. It only comes through the Spirit of Jesus in your life.