God placed you in your specific family on purpose for a purpose.
This is one of the biggest questions we have. Why my family? Especially when the family down the street seems so normal. Why am I stuck inside such a crazy and dysfunctional family? First off, there are no perfect families. Some families just do a better job at hiding the crazy, but we’re all dysfunctional at some level.
But look at how the apostle Paul describes the sovereignty of God when he’s preaching to a bunch of skeptics in first century Greece:
“The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by human hands. And he is not served by human hands, as if he needed anything. Rather, he himself gives everyone life and breath and everything else. From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us." Acts 17:24-27
God is absolutely sovereign. The reason you were born in this age and not in the Middle Ages is because God determined it to be that way. You are not an accident, no matter what your parents might have told you.
And God placed you within your specific family for a specific reason. Why, I might not be able to know and you might not figure it out this side of heaven, don’t ever doubt that God has you in your specific family for a purpose.
So instead of spending time complaining about your crazy family, maybe we should spend more time making the most of the family we have, because we’re not there by mistake.
Every single person in your family, crazy or not, is a child of the Most High God, created in His image and loved unconditionally by Him. Whether they know him or not, God loves them. And perhaps the reason God has you in your specific family, as dysfunctional as they might be, is because you are the lighthouse of hope that God wants to use to save your family.
You might be the only Jesus your family only sees. And even though the outside world can’t see past the surface, your family knows the real you. And if you can shine the light of Jesus even through the most difficult moments of life, then you can be a part of changing the eternal destiny of your family. That’s all the purpose you need.