What if you could enjoy your family?
Step 2. Take responsibility for your own emotions. “
At least half of the time when we get irritated, impatient, or frustrated with our kids, it's because we're already feeling stressed or unhappy,” advises Dr. Markham, who also writes for Mothering Magazine. “Then there's a spark, our bad mood flares, and before we know it we're in the middle of a firestorm. The other half of the time our anger is "justified" in the sense that our child acts in ways that trigger us. Naturally, we want to lash out, to blame, to make our child feel bad. Isn't that how she'll learn? The short answer is No. At those moments you’re in fight or flight and your child looks like the enemy. Kids won’t always do what we say, but they will always, eventually, do what we do. So if you want a child who can manage her emotions, remember that you’re her role model. That's why being mindful of your mood transforms your parenting. It can even rewire your brain!”