Listening can be one of the easiest and yet most profound things we do as parents. It doesn't take any special equipment, degrees, muscles, or credit cards. It's not difficult to weave authentic listening throughout our busy everyday routines, and the benefits, both for us and our kids, are lasting.
When we listen, we bring forth and hold the sacredness of our children. We are reminded to stay in the moment, give from our hearts, go beyond self-imposed limitations, and open ourselves to a more expansive universe. Listening lets our kids know they are valued and gives us treasured insight into their very being. The vital decision to listen can dissolve any distance between us and our kids.
What Might We Hear?
Our children tell us things we once knew but have pushed aside, forgotten. We who have lived a while miss a great deal of what goes on around and within us. A child sees things in his world that we may not be able to see. Talking about what he senses to a receptive adult gives his world a voice and gives the child a vocabulary for his rich experiences and esoteric ideas.
When children are "heard and seen," instead of "seen and not heard," they will naturally express their feelings. Be a parent to whom your child can trust her feelings. A trusting child feels free enough to share. Through this sharing her spirit is nourished and her beliefs are formed.
How Can We listen?
Here are some ideas on how you might begin listening to your child:
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