A recent book by secular commentator, Wellesley grad, and single mother Maggie Gallagher, The Abolition of Marriage: How We Destroy Lasting Love, says: Not only is marriage in danger of disappearing . . . Though we do not realize it yet, it already has . . . By expanding the definition of marriage to the point of meaninglessness, courts are gradually redefining marriage out of existence (p.131). David and Eowyn, you marry today in an ethos of egalitarian androgyny and sexual confusion. You marry in a culture that has "redefined marriage out of existence." What you are doing today is profoundly counter-cultural, and thus extremely significant. Ephesians 5:22-33, this bright jewel of Scriptural revelation regarding marriage, calls to us across the centuries. How surprisingly appropriate are the three lessons it teaches us: Marriage is Total Commitment
Yesterday, you could have awakened, wondered what you were about to do and called the whole thing off--as happened to a New York socialite whose beau did not show but took the airplane to the honeymoon venue--alone, the cad! And so the would-be bride and her guests celebrated the sixty thousand dollar reception without him. This morning that option remained for you--though not the $60,000 reception. Tomorrow morning it will no longer be open. Today, before the Lord, the swearer of unbreakable oaths, you totally commit yourselves to each other "till death do you part."
|We do not here celebrate animalistic coupling, as if you were rabbits (or the Hollywood equivalent, serial monogamy).
There is a notion these days about males and females, that apart from one or two biological functions, we are interchangeable. The gender revolutionaries of our modern Nanny state, having succeeded in the schools and universities, are now trying his ideological experimentation in the army, where morale and combat readiness are at an all-time low. The youngest child in our family, Toby (10) has played on soccer teams for whom the appropriate Bible verse would be, "all we like sheep have gone stray," as the entire team rushes around like a mindless herd of little lambs wherever the ball happens to bounce, unable to heed the coach shouting, "Keep your positions!" Forgetting to play positions is a surefire way to lose a soccer match, unless both teams do it. The egalitarian feminist interpretation of Ephesians 5 makes its rounds in the churches these days. It claims an interchangeability which requires no heads, no gender-specific roles and only mutual submission. But such a theory does not work--on more than one level. At the very least it produces exegetical mayhem. The model of marriage, as revealed by the Lord, is Christ and the Church. If our interchangeability rule is applied to this model, we would deduce that the Church is the head of Christ; that the Church gives herself up in death for Christ in order that she might present him holy, blameless, without stain or wrinkle.
|Submit to him as you would to Christ. Be submissive to the Word of God as it teaches you with all gentleness the role of wife and mother.
When you stand before the Lord, He will not ask you: Did you have great success in the eyes of the world? Did you have lots of kids who all went to Harvard and Wellesley? Were you able to give expression to all your fantasies and desires, pursue your individual careers, and make the payments too? He will ask you, "Did you show in your marriage the mystery of Christ's love to the church?"
To God be the glory forever and ever, Amen.