Learn comfortable ways to say “no.” Saying “no” to what you don’t want to do says “yes” to you, which is very empowering. If you find it hard to turn people down, ask yourself what scares you and what’s the worst that can happen. People who matter to you, and care about you will understand. If it’s too uncomfortable at first, don’t say “no.” Say that you have another commitment.
Eventually just say, “I can’t do it.” Most people will accept that if YOU do. Or say you have to check your calendar and will get back to them. then email that it doesn’t work. You can learn to Say “Yes” Slowly, or turn people down if you don’t rush to answer. You CAN Say “NO!“ “I deserve to be able to turn people down and can do it.”