Invite Angels to Help You Examine Your Emotions
People may use forgiveness as a way to bypass feeling and processing all the challenging emotions that come with being hurt: anger, frustration, grief, sorrow, regret, humiliation, fear. These emotions could seem scary or overwhelming, so it feels safer to simply move away from the event by forgiving the person automatically and denying how badly we were affected by their actions. Yet you can't honestly forgive someone until you understand exactly what they did, exactly how they hurt you. If you have not examined your emotions around a major wound, or tend to intellectualize or downplay your emotions, seeing a counselor or therapist, or talking about your emotions with a loved one, will help. You can also try the following exercise.
Get a piece of paper and write the angels a letter. Whenever you address the angels, whether it's in your thoughts, prayers or journal, you can be sure you are in safe hands. You can share anything and everything with the angels, because angels do not judge us and their love is unconditional. Start the letter "Dear Angels," and then tell the angels how you feel about the person who hurt you, and how you feel about what they did. You can start with how you felt right after they hurt you, then write about how those feelings have changed over time, and finally tell the angels how you feel about this person right now. If you are having trouble getting in touch with your feelings, put your pen down and lay your hand over your heart. This will help you get out of your head and into your heart energy, where it should be easier for you to access and express your emotions. Ask yourself, "What does my heart want to say?" or "What has my heart been holding back?" Allow yourself to have a cry, or feel angry.