Take Baby Steps
Young advises anyone wanting to create lasting change in their lives to do one simple thing—take baby steps. If you’re having trouble making a change, don’t obsess over the end goal. Don’t get caught up in the big picture. Just take it one tiny step at a time.
Think of change as a ladder. You put one foot on the first rung, and push off. And then you do it again. And again. And again.
You’ve probably heard this before. In fact, you’ve probably tried this method already. Young acknowledges this.
“Most people think they are taking small steps, but in fact their steps aren’t small enough,” he writes. If you’re having trouble making a change, go even smaller.
And don’t just take smaller steps, says Young. Instead of taking the age-old advice of “dream big,” you need to dream small. Manage your expectations. You’re taking baby steps right now, so don’t focus on the big results—just focus on the tiny positive results of your baby steps.
If you do this, your brain gets the reward it expects, and you’ll be more likely to stick with your process of change. But if you continuously imagine losing 100 pounds, and you lose 1 pound over the course of a week, you’re probably going to give up.
Take baby steps and manage your expectations. These are the keys to beginning the process of change.