Israel. India. Afghanistan. Sierra Leone. East Timor.

Every day, it seems there's another "hot spot" somewhere in the world; people in some faraway location in a crisis that barely touches our lives. I used to think that, too, until 1993, when I deployed, as an Army chaplain, to Somalia.

The medical group I was with was sent to Mogadishu, the once-elegant capital city of Somalia. By then, many houses sat empty or ruined, but it didn't take much imagination to see how handsome the architecture was, how once it must have been a charming coastal city with a Mediterranean flair.

On the main road that ran in front of our heavily guarded compound was a large refugee camp and feeding center. Although it was only half a block away, it took quite an effort for us to get there. The streets were alive with gangs, vandals, and sniper fire, so we couldn't go anywhere without full regalia, including flack jackets and helmets--not the outfit of choice in 90-degree heat!

Tall walls surrounded the feeding center. On my first visit there, I noticed that somehow it managed to be an island of sanity in the midst of a world gone berserk. I would soon discover that the physical and mental health of the people here was due to the director, a woman known only as Amina.

The first time I met her, she responded to my introduction with a smile. After that, I was always greeted with a hug. She was a large-boned, dark-skinned woman, maybe 5'4". But what you first noticed about her was the love and concern she had for each person in her camp. The second thing you noticed was her authority. She treated the inhabitants like her extended family, and they in turn gave her great respect. She might have technically been the camp's director, but in fact she was the matriarch of a large clan, one formed by circumstance. Amina was friendly with everyone, but somehow she and I formed a special bond, even though we had to speak to each other through an interpreter, or in broken foreign words and phrases. Maybe part of it was a sisterhood, the coming together of two women trying to help hold lives together in the midst of chaos.

Amina wore brightly colored scarves, as did all the women in the camp, and her hands and arms always had pictures painted on them. The pictures were intricate, made with stains of berries, like temporary tattoos. They were a sign of respect and affection by the native artists who drew them.

Shortly after arrival, we were taken back to see the refugee camp section, where families lived together in row after row of igloo-shaped dwellings fashioned out of large sticks covered with anything available: cardboard, corrugated metal, plastic tarps, even basketball hoops fastened down sideways.

I wondered how I--how any of us--would feel if our comfortable world collapsed overnight and we were left living in cardboard, unable to even provide food for our children. But Amina did not allow a spirit of bitterness in her camp. I saw this in the four overcrowded schoolrooms. The children, crammed three or four to a desk, had no books or notebooks. There were no pencils or chalk, so the teachers taught by having the children recite out loud--English, Arabic, and math. Yet there was an eagerness to learn. We soldiers could tell what the week's English lesson had been because, as soon as we entered the camp, we would be greeted with the day's new phrase: "What's your name?" "Where do you live?" The week they asked, "How old are you?" I was chagrined to discover they didn't understand my answer. I guess they hadn't learned to count that high in English!

But most memorable for me was how the children loved to dance. Their lives had been shattered, their homes, toys, and clothes taken away, but somehow they all seemed to share Amina's spirit of gratitude: Just to be alive with food and water was enough.

By the second or third time I entered the compound, two little girls were bold enough to come up to me. Because I was a woman, they wanted to show me a girls' folk dance. It started with shouts of "Yupa! Yupa! Yupa!" and the shaking of the shoulders. When the older girls heard it, they circled around, clapping or shaking empty water bottles, which had become maracas. When I began to dance with them, they whooped with delight. I couldn't believe it. We were in the middle of a war zone--and the children were teaching me to dance.

After that, I tried to bring my guitar when I came, to teach the kids some simple American dances, like the Hokey Pokey. My visits there were a happy time.

Then one day, there was a small incident that could have become a crisis. After a couple of buddies and I safely reached the feeding-center compound and the doors were shut behind us, I took off my helmet and reached into my back pocket for my cap. It was missing. An Army cap would be a real prize to kids who had nothing. I knew that anything stolen on the streets of Mogadishu would never be seen again, guaranteed. But I also knew that Amina made sure we were treated as honored guests in the compound. And in civilized Somalia, honored guests are protected, not pickpocketed. It was even more important to Amina to teach these children values than it was to teach them to read or do math. The whole camp would feel its honor had been slighted if I accused anyone of taking my cap.