6 Prayers for Husbands That Don’t Feel Loved

A man wants to feel loved and that he’s the one for his wife. He wants to feel that he brings his wife happiness and that she accepts, trusts and appreciates him. A man needs to know that he’s making a difference in his wife’s life; otherwise he may not feel like he’s playing the best role in the marriage. One of a man’s biggest fears is not feeling like he is good enough. If he looks in his wife’s eyes and sees love, he will feel loved and give love in return. But when he looks in his wife’s eyes and senses fear or rejection, his love will be stifled. If you’re a husband and you’ve been sensing coldness, rejection or loss of love in your marriage, the best thing to do is turn to God. If you’re feeling disconnected, it may have less to do with your relationship with your wife and more to do with your relationship with God. It’s easy to forget through the stresses of life that God is love and that we can turn to Him when things break down. Even if you go to church every Sunday, you may feel like your spiritual walk is at a standstill. Husbands will feel a greater sense of love when they’re growing spiritually through prayer. Here are six prayers for husbands that don’t feel loved.

When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

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Invalidation is a pattern in which one partner subtly or directly puts down the thoughts, feelings or character of another. It can take many forms in your marriage. It may occur when you’re expecting praise for some positive action that is ignored by your wife, while some minor problem is highlighted. Invalidating your spouse is one of the best ways to quickly destroy trust and confidence in your relationship. A relationship plagued with this habit will not last long. If you don’t feel good enough as a husband, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, today I don’t feel good enough. Please help me to see that I am good enough and that you’re continually working on me. Help me to recognize my true worth and value especially when I feel put down. You have already started a good work in my heart and I pray that it will be completed. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

When You Need Patience

Patience is imperative in marriage and is the key to longevity. It’s the indispensable virtue for loving better and living together day by day in peace without constant struggles to change the other to our liking. Patience in marriage really begins with the individual. Our daily routine gives us ample opportunity to practice patience more. Within marriage, patience means discerning what needs to be changed and what needs to be tolerated. If you’re looking to be more patient in your marriage, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, thank you for this marriage. Thank you for guiding us to where we are today. You say that love is patient and kind, yet there are days when I’m anything but patient, and I’m hardly as kind as I should be. Help me to recognize how your loving compassion and grace has reached down to us more than we have ever deserved. Teach me to give more than I deserve and forgive before I’ve been given. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

When You Want to Develop More Intimacy

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Next to your relationship with God, marriage should be the most intimate relationship you experience in life. It should be more intimate than a friendship and many other important relationships in your life. But sadly, many husbands feel alone in marriage. Because man is body, soul and spirit, married couples must cultivate every aspect of their being in order to develop intimacy. They must cultivate their friendship, their sexuality and their spirituality in marriage, which represent soul, body and spirit. If one aspect is missing, couples will lack the intimacy God desires. If you want to develop greater intimacy with your wife, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, I love my marriage. I love my wife and I love the life that we share. Please help me to initiate intimacy in my marriage more often. I understand that my wife needs to fulfilled by me and I need her. Help both of us to make more time for each other, to make intimacy a priority in marriage. May Your power fulfill this area in our lives. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

When You’ve Sinned Against Each Other

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If you want to revolutionize your marriage and the love you have for each other, start with a little repentance. It’s amazing how much healing can occur between a husband and a wife when nine little words are said, “I am sorry for what I did, I repent!” As we grow as believers, it’s easy to put up a façade. Often, we aren’t willing to admit where we are spiritually because we have become skilled at hiding our weaknesses. But for Christian husbands who want a strong marriage, there comes a time when we have to be honest with ourselves. When you’ve sinned against each other in your marriage, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, I pray that during conflict my wife and I would not sin against each other. Help us to remain calm, kind and compassionate. I pray that we would not allow conflict to tear us down or hurt our marriage in any way. I also pray that we would experience a quick recovery after conflicts. Heal our hearts and show us a way to mend our marriage. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

When You Need to Build Up From Hurt

All the bad things we go through in marriage can prepare us for something even better. Our trials give us strength to navigate through anything we experience in marriage with honesty. Any anguish you experience in marriage will not only fester in your marriage, but also has the power to destroy it. The key here is seeing the opportunity to grow in every hurt. When you need to build up from hurt, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, marriage sometimes can be so challenging. I love my wife, but there are times when we rub each other emotionally raw. Our words and actions are not edifying, often leaving us hurt or angry. Today, I pray that you build us up from our heart. I also pray for reconciliation. May your Holy Spirit empower us to say “I’m sorry,” and “I forgive you,” so that we can let it go and move on. May we validate each other, encourage each other and pray for one another. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

When You Feel Tempted

Temptation isn’t the sin; it’s when we swallow the bait and act on temptation that it becomes sin. And it can destroy our marriages and our lives. One foolish choice made in a moment of weakness can wipe out years of integrity. You may not think it takes much courage to face your temptations, but it does. Accountability is a proactive step toward never underestimating the power of temptation. If you’re feeling especially tempted and vulnerable right now, pray this prayer: Heavenly Father, I pray for my marriage right now. Please guard my relationship with my wife and protect us against elements that tempt or taunt us to ruin what we have. Convict our hearts when we are wrong or unrighteous, fill us with the passion to get better and bless us with a deep love for each other. In Your holy name I pray. Amen.

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Where women often feel love for those who emotionally and physically support her, a man feels love in response to a woman’s gracious and loving reactions to him. Wives sometimes don’t realize the power of their love and many times unnecessarily seek to earn a man’s love by doing more things for a man than they want to do. If a man doesn’t feel appreciated, then all the contributions to the running of the house are totally meaningless to him. A major source of love for a man is the loving reaction that a woman has to his behavior. Turn to God in prayer when you feel like love is missing from your marriage and trust Him to renew your marriage. He has the power to make your paths straight.

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