Surround Yourself with Loving, Patient Friends
Healing is not the same as recovery. Recovery is medically defined, but healing addresses the restoration of wholeness to heart, mind, and soul. Recovery is about temporal living, and healing is about the everlasting. This journey will be an experience that will open you up, make you vulnerable, and if you are honest, at times might be more painful than the tragedy itself. You'll need someone there for you who will be always willing to pray...right then...out loud.
I spoke most often to my brother and my pastor. They were not always happy to witness my meltdowns, but they were always there to hear them. God also gave me other friends who would not be judgmental. My friend Mimi was incredible. She slept over at times, cooked for my son and me, and watched Lifetime movies with me all night long. She went into my backyard with me, and as small as it might seem, she stayed out there with me and even helped me pick up leaves. All the while, she never stopped telling me, "It's okay, girl."
My friends Cindy and Melissa were incredible. They were new friends from church, and I believe they were exactly who I needed. We prayed together and talked often about Scripture and how they began their walk of faith and God's plans for my life. We even talked about their views of my life.
There are no words to express the value of their friendship during that time.
Adapted from Held by Leslie Haskin. Copyright 2007 by Leslie Haskin. Used with permission with permission from Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.