Excerpted with permission from ReGeneration Quarterly

We didn't set out to reach Gen Xers when we started New Song Church in 1986, mostly because nobody had ever heard of a Gen Xer.

The people born between 1963 and 1981 had not yet been saddled with the label that Douglas Coupland now wishes he had never invented. We used to call them "the people in between," because they didn't fit into church youth ministries but didn't feel ready to join family-oriented congregations.

We were encountering the leading edge of a generation who processed information differently, were cynical about established organizations, and were deeply committed to their friends--characteristics that have now been well documented by sociologists.

When it came to church, they valued raw honesty and experiential worship. Like every group of human beings, they also liked being around people like themselves, hearing their own music, and talking about their own issues. New Song Church gave them the chance to develop a church for their generation.

We took a pretty traditional church-planting approach in starting New Song: build up a core of people, gather them in a weekly service, reproduce small groups to assimilate those who came, and develop compassion ministries so that the church wouldn't become ingrown.

So far we really weren't doing anything new. The difference was who was leading and giving the church its distinctive character. Most small group leaders and, eventually, staff members were in their early twenties. A nineteen-year-old led the worship. We referred to elders as "youngers." And young people came, became Christians, and stayed.

Back in the days when Gen Xers were being referred to as "slackers," New Song Church demonstrated that members of this generation were not "slackers" but rather passionate, creative, and committed ministers.

But older people came, became Christians, and stayed, too. They weren't drawn by the music or the clothing styles. They just loved being around young people. What made New Song more than a young adult event was the involvement of the older generation with the younger generation. Those who were older served in our nursery, on our financial team, as small group leaders, and as mentors. Even though we intended New Song Church to be for Gen Xers, it has become a church that spans four generations. And it is better for having done so.

After eight years at New Song Church, we joined the staff of Willow Creek Community Church in the suburbs of Chicago.

Dieter was hired to develop a "ministry for the next generation." At the time of our move, Willow Creek was 18 years old and was already experiencing a gap between its youth ministry and its adult membership. In order to bridge that gap, we developed Axis, which functioned like a Gen X church within Willow Creek.

This is not the place to fully critique the "church within a church" approach, but it's no panacea. Creating new churches within churches leads to the hall of mirrors question: When will it ever stop? The potentially endless proliferation of new subgroups begins to look like it is based on nothing more substantial than catering to new styles. That kind of shallowness won't last.

The motivation--to make sure that younger people stay in church--is sound, but the strategy can backfire, taking on the tone of a junior-senior relationship.

Often, this kind of Gen X ministry is created and ultimately controlled by the older generations. Rather than being as legitimate as the "main" church, the Gen X congregation is seen as something that people will grow out of and graduate from, like high school. But how do you graduate from your own generation?

Worst of all, this approach to ministry is usually based on the assumption that the characteristics of Gen Xers are things that they ought to grow out of. When they do, goes the implicit reasoning, they will join the rest of us adults.

Very rarely does anyone ask, "Could it be that the characteristics we want Gen Xers to grow out of are the very characteristics that the church ought to grow into?"

For in retrospect it's clear that Gen Xers were not bringing a generational challenge as much as a philosophical challenge to established churches.

Postmodernism, the native worldview of Gen X, doesn't say, "I was born between the years w and y." It says, "My view of the world, truth, and spirituality is significantly different from your view of the world."

And the truth is that we all, regardless of generation, are moving toward postmodernism. It just happens that Gen Xers were the first generation to manifest its characteristics.

At first, they were identified as the latest variation on the old theme of disenchanted youth.

But in fact, they were and are the tip of a wedge cutting through our culture. Every generation after them is postmodern, and postmodernism is changing all of us.