Around my house, that's when the sputtering starts. Only in the realm of religion is it assumed that every experience is a subjective experience, which means it's an emotional projection--which means: Look, dear, a lunatic.
But in the real world, experience is just that: an experience. A few months ago I spent two weeks in Turkey. I experienced being in Turkey. When I tell people this, nobody nods kindly and assumes that I had an emotional experience that felt just like being in Turkey. In the real world, experience is expected to correspond to reality. Only when the topic is religion do people assume you're talking about your feelings.
That little word, "feelings," contributes to our confusion. We expect it to stretch over two divergent concepts, and don't notice when we switch from one meaning to the other. This was evident, for example, in the "Star Wars" series. The soon-to-be bad guy, Anakin Skywalker, was warned not to be ruled by his "feelings," his impulses of anger and vengeance. But the good guy, Luke, was encouraged to put more trust in his "feelings;" in that case, it meant his sense of connection with the Force.
The first kind of "feelings," that is, emotional reactions, is something we can understand pretty well. We know what it's like to be elated or furious, generous or spiteful. This kind of "feelings" arises as a response to something we perceive.
But then there's the process of perception, and, confusingly, we use the word "feelings" here too. We can feel that autumn is coming, by some combination of our physical senses. We feel a change in the mood of a gathering, by a yet more subtle means. We are registering "feelings" all the time, through mind and body and an agile combination that seems to need a name of its own. Though many perceptions flow through us unnoticed, we can learn by discipline to raise them to awareness. Luke was urged to feel the presence of the Force-to gather his scattered senses and focus them on something just under the surface, something he had no prior experience of perceiving. He had to learn to recognize the Force, through concentrated attention. He had to trust his "feelings."
Part of our problem is that we think people are solely made up of two equal-and-opposite faculties, reason and emotion. Reason is thought to be objective while emotion is subjective. So if God cannot be proven by reason, belief in him must be a private party. It must be an impulse that arises from emotion, powerful but untrustworthy, and applicable to nobody else. This is why religious people are regularly admonished that their beliefs are "true for you, but not for everybody."
If reason and emotion are all we've got inside, there's no room for that other kind of "feelings." But in first-millennium Christian spirituality there's another concept, that of the nous. This Greek word gets translated in our Bibles as "mind," but there really is no English equivalent. It does not mean merely the rational intellect. The nous is like a radio inside each person that can receive impressions from God. It can receive any kind of impression, from anything; most of the time the nous is just wandering around looking for something to entertain or excite itself. At a minimum, the nous usually still receives impressions from God in the form of conscience. (You know you're not just talking to yourself, because it's saying things you don't want to hear.) After it encounters something, the nous may react with a thought or an emotion, but those are secondary reactions. What comes first is the encounter.
First-millennium Christians understood their task as submitting the whole person to the transforming power of God, beginning with the nous. They spoke of trying to "capture" the mind (nous) and bring it steadily into the presence of God, which was understood as being in the center of the chest, in the "heart." ("Be transformed by the renewal of your nous," Romans 12:2.)
This understanding of the nous as the place we have a primary encounter with God gives us an alternative to the forced and limited dichotomy of reason and emotion. In this view, a spiritual experience doesn't spring from our emotions. It's a real connection with God. It's as real as a trip to Turkey. We experience it by means of an interior faculty built into us, by God, for the express purpose of communion with him. We may feel emotions as a result of this communion, and we may develop new thoughts and insights, but the initial encounter is the point.
This is true for me and it's true for you, too, even if you can't sense it. I have often puzzled about why some people don't seem to be able to sense this. I hope one day they will. I think I know what that's like. I was a near-sighted kid, and regularly found myself in situations where my parents would be pointing emphatically at something they wanted me to see, and I would squint and strain and still just not see it. A bird in a tree, for example. I might say "No, I still don't see it," or I might fib and say "Oh, I see it now," just to get it over with. But I never said, "There is no bird."
Those who can't see the bird can at least see the birdwatchers. They can perceive that the birdwatchers are united in their conviction that they really are seeing a real bird. They can even perceive that the watchers who call themselves Christian all appear to be seeing the *same* bird, no matter when in history or where in the world you dip into the story. So if you don't see the bird yet, keep an open mind. Allow that those who say they have had an experience may genuinely have had an experience, even if you can't understand it. And keep watching the birdwatchers.