Anecdotes about finding love in the strangest places are the most amusing aspect of this book. Miller's talk about an "inner guide" instructing us who to marry may be useless to those whose inner voices are more inchoate. Her advice--don't be blinded by preconceptions about the "right" person to marry--sometimes strains credulity, as in the tale of the Austrian Nazi whose inner guide tells her to marry an American Jew. It also has the uncomfortable feeling of being directed at people in their late 40s who are getting a little desperate and want some justification for dating a totally inappropriate person; after all, most of the time, people marry those from similar backgrounds, "soul mates" or no.