Very often, when I become overwhelmed by life, I stop and ask myself, “Why are you running yourself ragged? Who are you trying to impress?”  Typically, the answer is that I am trying to impress other people. Trying to impress others is a recipe for stress. For instance, I have a friend who lives in a…

New Year’s resolutions are a wonderful tradition.  We always should be striving to improve ourselves and our lives with each passing year.  The problem with New Year’s resolutions is not our trying to better ourselves, but rather how we go about doing so. Resolutions tend not to work when they are based on quantifiable goals.  “I…

Whenever I talk to people who are in their late twenties, they always say that turning 30 will mean that they are “old.”  They act as if being older than 29 is a tragedy.  My response is always the same: You couldn’t pay me enough money to go back to my 20s.  With every decade, my life gets…

We complicate and create conflict in our relationships when we have unrealistic expectations of those we love.  We do that by expecting the wrong things from the wrong people.  When we do so, the result is disappointment for us and frustration for others. Spouses often over-complicate their marriages with inappropriate expectations.  It is good for your…

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