A new study shows four out of ten U.S. adults are living without a romantic partner or spouse.
Do you find yourself being stressed out with your current and past relationships?
Do you wonder if you are with the right person in terms of your current relationships?
It can be very difficult to be in a happy relationship nowadays. It is not uncommon to hear that your friends or coworkers just got a divorce or they broke up with their partner. It is also difficult to find someone that you enjoy being with and having them like you as well. In addition, many people are single parents which can also complicate your relationships. As a result, many people are left wondering what they should do in making sure they end up in a stress-free relationship.
To help relieve some of your relationship concerns, here are 8 tips on how a person can manage the stresses and anxieties of being in a relationship.
Get into a relationship for the right reasons.
Some people get into a relationship so they do not have to be alone which can be a big mistake. Getting into a relationship with someone for the sake of not being alone can cause problems down the road. A person should get into a relationship for the right reasons. It is important that you do not rush things and not to be quick into making important decisions that could have long term consequences. If you feel that things are going too fast, then tell your partner that you want to slow things down. Do not be pressured into doing something that you do not feel comfortable with.
Learn from your mistakes in your past relationships.
It takes practice and a lot of effort to maintain a successful relationship. Try to learn from your past relationships to see what you did right what you did wrong. You do not want to get into another relationship and repeat the same mistakes you made the last time. If you still feel that you need some help, then try talking with your friends and peers to see what they have to say regarding your past relationships.
Talk with your partner on a regular basis.
Communication with one another will help prevent some misunderstandings in a relationship. When a problem does come up, discuss your feelings with the other person. Most importantly, do not assume that the other person knows how you feel. Many relationships end because the other person thought that things were going well when in fact the other person was upset. Talking to your partner about your feelings will help maintain a long lasting relationship.
Be a team player and learn to work with the other person.
Being in a relationship is like being on a team. Each member must do his or her own part. One person cannot do everything. Work with your partner in having a happy relationship. If you find yourself doing all of the work, then talk to your partner about your concerns. It takes two people to have a successful and happy relationship. One person can not do the work of two people in any relationship.
Do focus on your point of view.
Always try to see things from the other person’s perspective when your in a relationship. This will help you to see where the other person is coming from which will reduce arguments and conflicts. You will eventually get into a few arguments during the course of your relationships and the key is to listen to your partner and not assume that you are the one who has all the answers. It is also a good idea to watch what you say if you get angry.
Think before you make the important decisions in a relationship.
Many people nowadays seem to be quick into being in a long term relationship. Regardless of what you decide to do, is important that you do not rush your relationships. A person should think carefully on what they want in a relationship and they should be willing to take the time to get to their partner before you get married. Many people rush into marriage and then find themselves unhappy 6 months into the marriage. Do not be in a hurry in making one of the most important decisions in your life. Take your time and get to know one another before rushing into something that is more serious.
Do not let others pressure you into getting married.
Remember that being a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you have to marry the person. There are all kinds of relationships. There are friendships, dating relationships, more serious relationships, and others. Find the type of relationships that make you feel comfortable and go from there. If your family and friends pressure you into getting married, then politely tell them that it is not their concern and tell them to stop their pestering. Remember that you got to do what is best for you and your partner.
Get relationship advice.
If you still have trouble in dealing with the stress and anxieties of a relationship, then talk to a counselor. A counselor can provide much helpful advice on how to handle your stressful relationships. A counselor can also work with you and your partner to help resolve any potential conflicts that is threatening your relationship. Learning the techniques of being in a successful and satisfying relationship with your partner can really help you in the long run. Remember it takes a lot of work to maintain a good relationship with someone you enjoy being with.
Make the best of your situation whether you are alone or in a relationship. If you are happy in your current relationship then take of advantage of that. If you are alone, make the best with your situation. The key is to be happy whether you are by yourself or your with someone else. Being content with your current situation will help prevent you from making hasty decisions that could cause problems down the road. In addition, do not be in a rush to get into a relationship because you could end up with someone who is not right for you. Just be yourself and live your life to the fullest. The rest will take care of itself.
Stanley Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For some more information and free mental health advice go to Stan’s website at www.managingfear.com.