We are intended to be in relationship with the ongoing movement of life. But when you look at life as though nothing will change, it won’t. The more you push away what you don’t want, the more you keep it in place. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn8iQ8D8H_o&t=14s
Here is a heart-healing, sadness-ending spiritual fact. Welcome the light it brings by being willing to see the truth hidden within it:
Regardless of how disappointing or painful it may have been, nothing real lives in your past that can grab you and make you its captive any more than a dark shadow has the power to keep you from walking into the sunlight.
Now, add to this fact the realization that there is never a good reason to go along with feeling bad about yourself, and you’re on your way to living in a world without self-pity.
To help speed your journey, welcome the ten special insights that follow as your trusted guides to a life free of tears. The more you work inwardly to understand their wisdom, the freer you will find yourself of all dark, self-compromising states.
The only thing self-pity accomplishes is that it makes your life worse.
No matter how you look at it, not wanting some negative emotional state doesn’t separate you from what is unwanted; it binds you to it!
Being wrapped up in self-pity completely spoils any chance of being able to see new possibilities as they appear; besides, no one likes sour milk.
The only thing that grows from cultivating any dark seed of sorrow is more bitter fruit.
Manipulating others to feel sorry for you is like an alcoholic asking for a gift certificate to a liquor store.
Self-pity is the campsite of self-defeat; it is a dark refuge for those parts of us that would rather wallow in what cannot be than dare to explore what is possible.
Feeling sorry for yourself is a slow-acting poison; it first corrupts and then consumes the heart, choking it with dark, useless emotions.
You cannot separate the reasons you have for feeling sorry for yourself from the sorry way you feel.
The heart watered by tears of self-pity soon turns to stone; it is incapable of compassion.
Agreeing to live with sad regrets only ensures they’ll still be with you tomorrow.