We are intended to be in relationship with the ongoing movement of life. But when you look at life as though nothing will change, it won’t. The more you push away what you don’t want, the more you keep it in place. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn8iQ8D8H_o&t=14s
The only way not to suffer the passage of those things in life that we love is to agree to their passing even as we take them into our heart.
You can’t be fearful and have gratitude for life at the same time unless, in the moment of fear, you remember your God Who gives you His Life in which there is no fearing.