We see the beauty in other people and in the world around us. But, often we don’t recognize or acknowledge our own. Do you balk or try to minimize compliments? Is it easier to put yourself down? Are your flaws more prominent in your consciousness?  All of this is very common but, it’s not right! And, it’s counter to loving you.

I’ve had clients who first came to me and couldn’t stand to look at themselves in the mirror. It was too painful. I remember how that felt when I hated me. Looking in the mirror got me down because I saw only parts of me—the parts I hated! My clients also had selective vision in the mirror. We can be in the great outdoors and slowly take in the beauty of nature, or watch fireworks and relish all the colors and shapes. Yet it’s so hard to slowly take in your own beauty—to look yourself up and down to find all the lovely things that make you who you are.

But you must! Finding all the beauty that you possess will open your eyes to loving yourself.

Don’t ignore the lovely things that make you YOU! I needed someone to drag me to a mirror to force me to see my pretty green eyes. That made me realize how much I missed out on by focusing on what I didn’t like. It was easy to compliment friends and enjoy artwork and the art of nature. When I go hiking, I slowly look around in awe, appreciating the beauty of the views. Now I use that same attitude to view me!

Start looking for your beauty. It’s there and you can find it if you look. I’m talking about guys too! We all have wonderful qualities that we don’t appreciate. Slow begin to pay attention to things about yourself that you’ve never given time to—the strength in your hands, your warm smile, eyes that twinkle, and a gazillion other things! Linger on each part of you and see yourself like the view from a mountain. Write down what you recognize as your beauty. You have it and just need to take the time to look!

Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. And you can post your loving acts HERE to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE.

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