A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.” I tell them to fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” People don’t make […]
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Ahhh… It’s New Years resolution time! The time when everyone writes down or declares all the things they want to do or have in 2010. People do this every year, like it’s some magical formula for attracting what they want. I know they want the resolutions to come true and find the new year a good time to declare their intentions. They can run the gamet:
• “This year I’ll lose 20 pounds.”
• “I’ll go to the gym more.”
• “I’ll find the man/woman of my dreams.”
• “I’ll get a job that pays a lot more money.”
• “My life will get better.”
It all sounds so good when you say it before the new year begins, especially on New Years eve after you’ve been drinking and are in a party spirit. But, resolutions are commonly more wishful thinking than serious intentions that bring results form the Law of Attraction. You may say them forcefully on New Years Eve and wish, hope and pray for them to come true. But, those feelings can dissipate quickly as you get back into old routines when the holiday is over.
Making declarations on one night, or for a few days, doesn’t show you’re serious if your actions show otherwise.
Intentions must be maintained to attract what you want and your actions must support them. Declaring you’ll lose weight or go to the gym more or meet the right romantic partner, or get a better job, etc. won’t make that happen if you don’t go to the gym or change your eating habits or work on making yourself the kind of person who attracts a healthy partner or prepare yourself for a better job. Your life won’t get better if you don’t do something to make it better.
Resolutions don’t work unless YOU DO the work!
Resolutions can actually hurt you if you look back with frustration on the ones you don’t keep. That can make you feel like a failure and cause you to focus on what you don’t want or didn’t do, which attracts more of what you don’t want. And, knowing your resolutions didn’t work can make what you want seem even more unattainable, so attracting them becomes harder. Resolutions don’t magically take hold because you say them and it’s a new year.
They manifest when you continue to affirm them and take steps toward making them happen.
Do you make your declarations and then WAIT for them to materialize? When they don’t, do you declare that resolutions don’t work? That tells the Universe they won’t, and they don’t. The cycle can take on a new life each year, and then bum you out as you look back and see nothing changes. As you get older, you may not even bother to make resolutions since they don’t work. But they do, if you make a conscious effort to manifest what you resolve to have.
New Years’ resolutions are like all intentions—they must be consistently reinforced with your thoughts and action.
New Years resolutions are not special intentions to be said and then ignored. Often your intention to make them can give you an excuse to postpone doing what’s necessary. You want to lose weight in November but choose to wait until the new year. But then the new year comes and your resolve is weaker from waiting. The best time to make a resolution is when the desire hits you. And then do the work instead of waiting for the new year.
Og Mandino says, “If you resolve, beginning today, to put out more on your job than you’re getting paid to do, miracles will begin happening in your life.”
For whatever area of your life that you want to change or improve, resolve to do the work! Don’t just resolve that something will happen. Resolve to MAKE IT HAPPEN—to do the work necessary. If you want to make more money, resolve to work harder at your job and also to explore other options. It’s so much fun to dream by resolving to get or do all sorts of good stuff. Actually doing the work usually isn’t. Fear, or lack of direction can make it seem unpleasant or hard to take action. I used to enjoy making resolutions and then feel SOOOO let down as the year began and I did nothing. Until I asked God for help.
Start by resolving to ask for spiritual guidance. Ask for suggestions or a direction if you don’t know where to begin. Resolve to listen to the guidance you get.
When you’re intentions are strong, you will get help! Show that they are by starting right now to do something in the direction of your resolution. If you want to lose weight, begin to watch your eating NOW! You might resolve to put more effort in after the holidays but at least try to curb your eating a little and get some exercise. If you want a better job, register a class and learn a new skill. Polish up you resume—get professional help if possible. If you want someone to love you, do more loving things for yourself.
You must show with your actions that the intentions in your resolutions are serious! That’s the key to attracting positive results from your New Year’s resolutions.
All talk and no action attracts all talk and no action! Just like all intentions, resolutions require fuel from you. I’ve been doing my cleaning all week and affirming that I’m making room for more of what I want. I’m listening to spiritual CDs as I clean and declaring my intentions, with enthusiasm, over and over. I know what I want and intend to receive.
What do you want? Write it down and begin to do something to attain it. Ask for guidance and really pay attention.
Guidance can come through experiences, something you see on TV, reading an article, or a gazillion other things. Everything does happen for a reason, so pay attention if something relates to your goal. I just got an announcement about an unexpected workshop given by a guy I’ve wanted to learn more from. He told me 2 weeks ago he wouldn’t have anything in NY for a few months. But demand was so high there will be one in mid January. I know this is for me and will be there. A friend I told this too laughed, and said it was a coincidence. I believe we attract coincidences. I do it all the time.
Resolve to do more general lifestyle changes than specifics of money you’ll make or pounds you’ll lose. That way, any progress is success. Vowing to lose 30 pounds often means you won’t appreciate it when you lose 5 pounds. But you should! Try more things like:
• I will try to eat healthier.
• I will watch my thoughts more to make sure they’re positive so I can attract what I want.
• I will do my best to nurture my spiritual power and seek more help from my higher being by putting my situations into his hands.
Get your thoughts in order and prepare for 2010 to be the year you make your resolutions real! You CAN! This DoorMat has been doing it for years now and it’s a lovely place to be. JOIN ME!
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