A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.” I tell them to fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” People don’t make […]
This is my fifth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version.
Yesterday I was in a special mood today. Some things had gone well for me. I was doing some errands and walked by a construction worker who asked, “how are you doing today?” Normally I get very annoyed when men talk to me on the street. While I’m very friendly, I tend to put up blinders when I walk in public since I’ve had some bad experiences in the past when I responded. This is probably a reason why some people perceive New Yorkers as being cold. We’re not! But there are some unsavory characters here.
Construction workers can be annoying. Responding to a friendly hi from one can lead to personal comments about body parts or sexual innuendos. It’s uncomfortable to have to field these kind of statements. And then there are men who try to put women on the spot to talk to them. It’s starts with an innocent comment but if we respond to be polite, it can morph into an intrusion.
So I tend to ignore all comment, etc. to avoid an unpleasant situation. Until today…
I’m not sure why but when the construction worker asked how I was doing, I breezed by him and replied, “I’m great. And how are you?” And I smiled. He smiled back, perhaps surprised to get an answer, and friendliness. It felt good and I took the good feeling with me, walking away smiling. And a funny thing happened.
The Law of Attraction brought that vibe back to me for the rest of the day.
I went to the supermarket and the guy behind the deli counter said, “hi, how are you doing today?” So did the cashier. All day long people smiled and asked how I was doing. It put me in a good mood each time. I smiled a lot more than I normally do while doing mundane errands. After a while I even laughed to myself. Changing my expectation of getting a bad result from being friendly to strangers attracted friendliness from people I didn’t know wherever I went.
We get back what we put out. That Law of Attraction works for or against us in all areas of living and interactions with people.
If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder, you’ll meet more people whose behavior reflects the ones who put the chip there since that’s the expectation you’re putting out. If your demeanor is a friendly one, more people will be friendly to you. Yesterday I felt cheerier than I have in a while. Responding in a friendly manner to the construction worker was a simple thing that put me in a good mood for the entire day because I got friendliness and good cheer from everyone who crossed my path.
While I don’t encourage talking to all strangers who talk to you, be aware of how the Law of Attraction brings friendliness and smiles back to you. New York may seem unfriendly to many people but in my little corner of it, it’s bright and cheerful. I like to be friendly, expect friendliness, and my world is friendly!