Comedian Jeff Foxworthy might be best known for his “You might be a redneck if…” routine, but he’s opening up about one thing he doesn’t find funny. Foxworthy was speaking at the “Conversation on Biblical Manhood” put on by The Church of Eleven22 in Jacksonville, FL. Other notable speakers included Tim Tebow, who is in his first year of fatherhood, and Pastor Matt Chandler of Texas. Foxworthy opened up about his own struggles in becoming a biblical father and man, noting how the failings of his own father put him behind the mark. “He was married six times, drank, smoked, cussed, told dirty jokes. I didn’t know how to be a good husband. I didn’t know how to be a good dad – but I could see guys that were good husbands, and I could see guys that were good dads, and I knew enough to go pick their brain,” he said. He sought help from these good fathers and husbands on how to “stay married” and be a good dad.

Foxworthy seems to have bucked the trend of his own father, having been married to his wife Pamela for over forty years. The couple have two grown children and a growing brood of grandchildren, with Foxworthy often gushing on social media about “grandpalife.” During the discussion, he shared that in his Bible he keeps a card with the words “Please break my heart with the things that break your heart.” “And I think God is brokenhearted the way manhood has kind of crumbled,” he stated.

He agreed with host pastor Joby Martin’s warnings against the “dude” phase of manhood. “And in the last 80 years, 100 years, there’s a new classification we call adolescence – or a dude. And a dude is a dangerous thing – and there’s nothing more dangerous than boys trying to bestow manhood on other boys,” said Martin. “It’s the freedoms of adulthood with the responsibilities of childhood, and we’ve got a bunch of guys locked right in there with that, and it’s not a good combination,” said Foxworthy. Experts have warned of younger generations staying in “perpetual adolescence,” with both men and women in their 20s and their 30s putting off traditional adult activities, such as getting married, buying a house, and having children. Foxworthy said that in order for men to move forward, they need to admit: “I need a savior.”