It’s an age-old problem, but not one we may not recognize. Gender matters when it comes to marriage. Needs differ in terms of their priorities and focus. Take a recent situation with Julie and Ray who have been married for 6 years. Julie is upset that her boss overlooked her for a promotion. She wants…

Bill and Ann need to stop inflicting pain on each other. Both suffer physical side effects from their unhappy marriage. They don’t listen to each other or a therapist because they are so physiologically aroused. Their emotions overtake them. They are distressed and in need of help. They need self-control. Bill and Ann are so…

People struggling in a marriage either wait too long to get relationship help or refuse help. Yet, we know how to help marriages headed to divorce. But there are 3 preconditions necessary to do the hard work of resurrecting a dying marriage or bringing problems to the forefront to be helped. Here are those preconditions: 1) Consider…

When I wrote the chapter on Sex and Affection in my latest book, We Need to Talk, I referenced the infidelity site AshleyMadison.com. I couldn’t believe a website  promoted married dating. A a therapist, I know how devastating an affair can be to a couple, a family, the church or place of employment. The website’s…

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