Doing Life Together

Anger is rampant in our culture. And it doesn’t seem like it takes much to be on the receiving end of an angry tweet, text or call. People get triggered easily and often. Anger is an intense emotion that when not controlled, leads people to yell, curse and say or do things they may regret.…

A friend was telling me she recently had a difficult conversation. As she prepared to respond, she determined to approach this conflict rationally and calmly. But the minute he questioned her competence, she lost it. Her rational approach went out the window and she became incensed.  Thinking stopped as she became defensive. At the end…

Two days after the Tulsa shooting, I had a routine mammogram scheduled in the same building where just 2 floors above a patient became a shooter and killed two physicians, a receptionist and a Good Samaritan patient who helped others escape the attack. The waiting room was unusually somber. Patient check-in was interrupted for a…

When the pandemic was in full swing, many of us wondered about the impact of mask wearing and isolation on the development of children. We know that babies do best when we hold them, look into their eyes and make lots of facial expressions. But masks and isolation made this harder to do. Grandparents were…

Rachel has struggled with her weight since she was a child. Now a 52-year-old woman, she was shopping for her niece in a nice department store. The sales clerk approached her and said, “We don’t carry plus sizes in our store.” Surprised and hurt, Rachel turned to her and said, “I am not shopping for…

This Memorial Day we honor the fallen, those who served and gave their life for our freedom. As you fire up the grill and set the picnic table, remember the importance of this day and those who sacrificed everything in service. For me, it’s personal.  My thoughts are drawn to families who’ve experienced loss. I…

Ordinary people, doing ordinary things, on an ordinary day, lost their lives in a supermarket due to a mass shooter. It’s hard to imagine that going to a store to buy your child’s birthday cake could end in your death. It did for one man. When the unthinkable happens, it frightens us all. Yet, we…

Have you ever set a goal you really wanted to reach, but despite your good intentions, fell short? For me, that goal is regular exercise. And my recent interaction with my doctor made me think more about the motivation to reach that goal. How can I be more successful reaching my goal? Like me, do…

Did you know that one of the most common relationship problems has to do with chores? Although chores may seem benign, they can create wars between couples. In fact, wars over chores have been shown to be one of the most common long-term relationship problems. Let’s look at why this is. To get chores done,…

For years, Jennifer suspected she was married to a narcissist. Bound and determined to get her husband to listen to her, Jennifer confronted him on his selfish and uncaring behavior. It didn’t go well. When she told me, I felt bad for her because she didn’t know, confrontation doesn’t usually end with a good result.…

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