“…I still instinctively tighten my grip when things feel out of my control. But that’s okay. I’m used to the drill: Something I didn’t want to happen, happens. I feel the resistance build within. I feel the pressure to control what is obviously out of my control. I become aware of what I’m doing–I become aware of the choice either to break down or to break open. I take a deep breath, uncoil my body, and stretch out on the river of change. Once again, I accept that life is uncertain–that the goal is not to become more certain about anything but to relax more into the mystery of not knowing what will come next. And then, miracle of miracles, out there in the deep and uncertain water, I come into a peaceful knowing–a faithful wisdom that surpasses control and certainty.”

Elizabeth Lesser in “Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow.”

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