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During an interview for a prominent publication, the interviewer asked me what were the defining moments in my life that led me to the place I’m currently in.  I though long and hard about the question because it seemed that I’ve had so many moments in my life that shaped and molded me into the man I am today; some for the good and some for the bad.  I answered her question, but it got me to thinking about us as humans and our defining moments.

The defining moments in our lives are not always positive at first, but they are designed to take us towards greatness.  The problem occurs however, when we see them as negative and thus let them (the moments) take us away from our greatness.  Case in point for me I was bullied, called all sorts of names.  But it wasn’t until a friend let me borrow Mary J. Blige’s My Life album, in the midst of my pain, that I discovered my love for soul care.  If I allowed those negative circumstances to define me I would’ve missed out on what I now know to be my purpose.

I don’t want to minimize the impact of those negative defining moments (the positive ones are equally as important), but what I am saying is its all about your perspective.  One of my clients experienced great tragedy from early childhood that left deep scars.  But he used the scars as fuel for a now successful art career.  It’s really about perspective.  I always say it’s not what happens to us that defines us but what we choose to make happen that defines us. Today shift your perspective about those events in your life and see where you can turn them into power.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,


Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook



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