Do you remember this happening in school while growing up? It may have been in the classroom…the school yard…on the school bus…while walking home. In fact… It was also likely to occur at home. And it has to do with that one kid… You know, the kid that others would make fun of…laugh at…and in […]
What happens when you watch a movie on TV?
You see a story that has a script to it.
It has a beginning, an end, and the events that take place in between.
But sometimes it doesn’t go the way as planned…even though it may seem like it’s supposed to at first.
In many ways this sounds like your life…right?
Now there’s something else you quite often don’t see in the movie that also happens to be in your life as well.
And it has to do with how your life turns out…even though it’s something most people do anything in their power to avoid like cancer.
Not only is this something that can strike the fear of death into you, but it’s also the very thing needed to turn your life around when it seems like all hope is lost.
What I’m talking about is “The unknown”
And more specifically…the Great Unknown.
Let’s face it…
It’s only natural as a human being to want to know how things will work out…the script of how things are to go in your life and having it be predictable.
But as you already know it quite often doesn’t go that way. And with it comes the eventual fear along with the unknown of what today, tomorrow, and the future brings.
What happens as a result…
Feeling paralyzed of what to do which quite often leads to giving up.
This is the best time to “dive in” and discover this great unknown because it’s where the solutions to the biggest problems in your life are.
So the question is…
“What (and where) exactly is this great unknown in your life”
…and how do you discover it?
1. Navigating the unknown
There are two things that you, I, and every human being will always face in life no matter what and these are right at the backbone of dealing with the unknown…making choices and taking risks.
With that said here’s a quote of mine…
“Life is full of choices. One of these choices is taking risks. And unless you’re willing to sometimes take risks your life will never change.”
Because many of the most important choices you’ll make in life comes with an increasing amount of risk…whether they have to do with your family, your career, the people you choose to associate with, your finances, and even who you are as a person.
And by knowing how to be courageous and brave enough to make these choices is what leads to discovering the greatest reward of all. It’s life’s most treasured payoff you’ll get as a human which is only attainable by navigating through the unknown.
I’ll come back to what this is in a few minutes.
But first the question here is…
How do you effectively navigate through the unknown?
Well, it’s the same way for all human beings…
By embracing life from a two-sided perspective.
Every situation you come across, whether you take risks or not, will have two sides to it.
No matter what you do you’ll have people liking and disliking you, supporting and challenging you, praising and criticizing you, putting you up and putting you down, being nice and mean to you…EQUALLY.
And the same is true of yourself. You’ll have moments of feeling happy and sad…equally. Moments of building yourself up and putting yourself down…equally.
There’s no escaping this.
And the interesting part of this…
Whether you step in to the unknown or go through life “playing it safe” and trying to avoid the unknown…you’ll get it anyway.
This brings up another quote that comes to mind…
“The real risk in life is doing nothing.”
It’s wise to make it a point to take risks because this is what gives you the courage to navigate through and “step in to”, take on, and go through the great unknown in your life.
And since you’ll get the both sides of life that I just mentioned, then you may as well “dive in” anyway…right?
Now of course when I say to take risks I don’t mean reckless, out of control, and highly emotional risks…
What I do mean are “healthy risks” that see the different situations involved from a two-sided perspective, along with seeing the equal amount of benefits and drawbacks of each.
When you approach it like this, you dance your way through the unknown and out the other side…which is the greatest reward I spoke about earlier.
In fact, there’s two greatest rewards.
Let’s look at the first one now.
Naturally there are as many different life journeys as there are people in the world. The nice part of this is the fact that your journey is unique and special. What is the same for everyone however is that all life’s journeys have a destination…
…And it’s here where the core of the great unknown in your life exists.
This is where the first greatest reward of your life lives.
Because it’s here where you discover the truth…the truth of who you are, why you’re here, what you’re made of, and what you’re willing to go through.
It’s also where you discover the other different truths…the truths of the many different events you go through in your life.
If there’s such a thing in life as an ultimate destination in life…this is it.
As much as a life reward this is, far too many people avoid what it takes to get there…stepping in to the great unknown.
Even though all human beings want the truth, most are afraid of it. They avoid it like cancer. And ironically, more often than not it has to do with stepping in to and discover the great unknown in their lives.
This again goes back to what I said earlier about taking risks…along with making the choices to take those risks.
And one of the main reasons for this is because most people are striving for a one-sided fantasy life…seeking more happiness than sadness, more pleasure than pain, more kindness than cruelness.
The world is not…was never…and will never work that way. It was never designed to in the first place.
It’s designed to work in a two-sided manner…and this is where you discover all truths in life…along with the great unknown in your life.
No matter how you go about life, there is no getting around making the choices that involve taking risks…which will always include having an equal amount of benefits and drawbacks to whatever is included in that “risky” situation.
And this is something I’ve certainly experienced in my life as well…especially when starting my own business. But it didn’t end there as I still to this day deal with many different types of situations that involve stepping in to the great unknown.
Not only have I dealt with it in my business, but in my personal life as well.
During my life I’ve moved several times, and with each move comes a new unknown in my life to deal with.
There are the unknowns of what the new place I move to will be like…who will I end up meeting and becoming friends with…how will I adjust to a new surrounding.
After many of these moves I ended up moving back to New Jersey. And even with those moves back to a place I’m familiar with came many unknowns as well.
The people who know me wonder why I move so much and see it as a disadvantage…but there are an equal amount of advantages to it as well…such as being conditioned to deal with and navigate through the great unknown in my life.
And the same is true for you as it relates to your life.
Once you make it a habit of seeing all events and moments in your life as having an equal amount of benefits and drawbacks (two-sided) you’ll condition yourself in how to anticipate dealing with “future events” before they come up.
Because whether you’re looking at the past, present, or future events in your life you still go about how you see them the same way…from the two-sided perspective I’ve been speaking about.
As a result…
You’ll uncover the different truths in life I mentioned earlier along with the second greatest reward life gives you.
3. The hidden blessings abyss
Now of course there’s the other side of what happens as a result of taking the different risks in your life…the rewards. And what’s fascinating about this is the fact that even if the risks you take don’t go the way you want you still get an equal reward.
This brings us back to the second of those great rewards that you get…
Finding the hidden blessings in your life.
And it’s here where you find the true meaning of your life.
It’s here where the things you may see at first as making no sense start to make sense.
It’s here where you realize why things happen the way they do.
And it’s also here where you discover not only the hidden order in the chaos of life, but what the great unknown is in your life.
This brings up another quote of mine:
“Instead of fearing and avoiding the unknown, look forward to the hidden blessings that the unknown reveals.”
This is what I call the hidden blessings abyss because within the great unknown of your life is an endless supply of hidden blessings that are there waiting for you to find them.
One such example in my life took place back in 2006. That’s when I had the failed business partnership that ended up costing me over $50,000. This resulted in my transitioning out of the fitness industry and into what I do today as a human potential specialist.
As a result…
I discovered who I am, why I’m here, and it conditioned me to effectively deal with the many different unknowns that have occurred in my life since.
Your life is full of hidden blessings…all designed to help you discover what your life is all about.
As scary and risky things may seem at times the rewards that come out of it for you make it all worth it…especially the hidden blessings you discover along the way.
Life is meant to be lived and in a way that is unique to who you are.
You’re here to find out what makes you the unique and special person you are.
Now when I say special I don’t mean feeling “entitled”…
What I do mean is… what it is about you that brings value to the world…and in a way that helps others do the same in their lives.
And doing it in a way that allows you to shine…to be the person you were put in this world to be.
You do matter…
You do make a difference…
And you do deserve to be loved and appreciated for who you are and all you do.