Know Your Value
If you are confident that you have something interesting to say, you will be interesting - science backs this up. Harvard psychologist Craig Malkin, Ph.D., found that confidence is sexy. His research confirmed that confidence breeds trustworthiness and warmth faster than physical appearance. During my big life change I discovered how much of my identity had been based on my job and how little I truly knew about myself. I definitely didn’t value myself. You need to find out who you are and what value you have to offer. Don’t be afraid if it seems “different” or “weird.” People love uniqueness and that is what makes people memorable and attractive. When someone has a deep level of inner value, they are the true opposite of boring.
This might sound harsh, but if you aren't willing to really connect with people just stay home. If you want to keep blending in, stop going to networking events. Stop going on dates. Stop trying to pitch new business. What’s the point of going to events if you aren’t going to be yourself, speak your truth and show your value? I hope you will decide to challenge yourself and step outside of your comfort zone. There is a much brighter, unboring, better way to live and you deserve it.
Vanessa Van Edwards is an author and highly sought after behavioral investigator. She is a columnist for Huffington Post and her work and research has been featured on CNN, Forbes, Business Week and the Wall Street Journal. Vanessa speaks regularly and appears in the media regarding the latest research. Vanessa’s groundbreaking workshops and courses teach individuals how to succeed in business and life by understanding the hidden dynamics of people. Her specialty is human lie detection and body language in business. For more information visit www.scienceofpeople.com.