Take out a sheet of paper and write make note of a relationship or two that you identify as a problem. Use a discerning eye to note any places where you have judgments of someone else that cause disconnection in the relationship. Another way to look at this might be to ask: “Am I attached to a particular outcome, here?” Are you attached to them being a certain way? Are you allowing them to have their process? As human beings, all of us get to have our process. We get to be as mistake-laden as we wish! (You do, too.) Take time to notice any places where you are out of integrity with you by holding judgments, resentments, blame or anything else that causes disconnection.
Kate Swoboda is a Life Coach, speaker and writer who helps clients to lead unconventional and revolutionary lives through practicing courage. She’s the author of The Courageous Living Guide, and creator of the Courageous Play and Create Stillness retreats–as well as The Coaching Blueprint, a resource just for Life Coaches. When she’s not writing, coaching, or leading retreats in Italy and San Francisco, she can be found sipping chai in libraries, buffing up on her Italian, training for her next road race, or getting all bendy-stretchy on the yoga mat. You can find Kate at www.yourcourageouslife.com