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In life, it already seems like we have enough to stress about, so why add to it? Unfortunately, many people simply care about things that don’t matter as much, and turn their cheek toward things they actually should focus on. We tend to overthink things so much that it becomes an obsession, such as worrying about what others think of us, how our hair looks, or how much money we have in the bank. Then, life becomes a constant wave of stress instead of the fun-filled playground that it could be. So, at what point to we decide to stop stressing about things that don’t matter, and start caring about the things that do? When will we let go of worry and fear, and embrace love and happiness?

Our hope here is that this will help clear things up and encourage you to rid your mind of a few of these potential stressors…

What others think of you.

We often live in a prison of what others think of us. The next time you worry about someone else’s opinion of you, remember that only yours truly matters. No one can take away self-confidence, self-love, and self-care, so make sure to work on these things continually. Love happens within, and once you have cultivated this, then you won’t feel so hurt or disappointed when someone else doesn’t like you. You have to live with you for the rest of your life, so wouldn’t it make sense that you should only care about your opinion of yourself?

If others don’t like you, then they can exit your life whenever they please, but you can’t. Stop stressing about what other people think, and start caring about what you think of yourself.

How much money you have.

Contrary to what many people think, more money will not equate to more happiness. Studies have shown that money makes a difference when it means living in a home versus having to live on the streets, but beyond our basic needs, having more money won’t make us happier. So, stop stressing about how much money you have in your bank account, and start caring more about living for today, and feeling grateful for what you already have.

Your past mistakes.

At some point, we have to just forgive ourselves for the past and move on. Dwelling on past experiences will not alter them or make you feel any better about the situations you put yourself in. You have to remember that every mistake allowed you to grow and learn, so look at your mistakes as blessings in disguise. Stop beating yourself up for your mistakes, and start embracing them as vital life experiences that helped you get to where you are now.

Fitting in with the right group.

Keeping up with the Joneses,’ meeting the status quo, and finding our place in this world have been drilled into us for so long now, we’ve almost started to believe in the importance of fitting in. However, going along with the crowd almost never results in true happiness. Following your heart, your true bliss, and what you came here to do, however, will surely lead you down a better road.

Fitting in means nothing if you don’t feel happy doing so, so remember to not get caught up in trying to look a certain way to society, or belong to a group. All that matters is that you feel fulfilled by whatever path you choose in life.

Always looking “perfect”.

The perfect body doesn’t exist, so stop trying to mold yours into what society tells you it must look like. We all have unique physical appearances, and while you can always try to improve your physical fitness, this should have more to do with your health rather than your looks. Give up the mass media image of what it means to have a perfect body, and start embracing yourself as you are now.

Pleasing everyone around you.

People-pleasing might make you some friends, but it won’t make you any good ones. When you bend over backwards to please others, you will inevitably attract the wrong kinds of people who just want to take advantage of you. Learn how to love yourself and listen to your own needs, and keep friends who don’t try to walk all over you.

Letting go of those who hurt you.

Finally, you shouldn’t stress about letting those go who no longer fit into picture of you becoming your best self. Maybe you both have taken different paths in life, and just need a break from one another. People come and go from our lives all the time, but never feel sorry for letting someone go who no longer helped you grow.

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