"Why not stop trying to keep yourself upright?" asks Murphey in Making Sense When Life Doesn’t. "Lean against a wall, or do something so your arms aren’t stirring up the air. It’s all right to be temporarily down. You may need a little time of feeling sorry for yourself. So go ahead and moan over life. Think of what might have been, or how you could have behaved differently. Make it a visit – a brief visit – not a place for permanent residence.