5 Things All Liars Have in Common l l Why People Lie

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The University of Massachusetts found that 60 percent of people can't go 10 minutes without lying. "Those people in the study who did lie actually told an average of 3 lies during their brief chat." They also found that men do not lie more than women or vice versa, but that men and women lie in different ways. "Women were more likely to lie to make the person they were talking to feel good, while men lied most often to make themselves look better," lead researcher Robert S. Feldman said. We can recall the childhood story of Pinocchio, it's a classic depiction and a warning of the results of what happens when we lie. In his case, his nose grew longer when he fibbed. For those of us not residing in a fable, there are always consequences to lying. This could include broken love relationships, losing jobs, losing friends and the horrible label of being known as a fabricator. Additionally, liars come with all sorts of dysfunction and they are not all alike. Nonetheless, here are 5 things that all liars do have in common with another.

They Are Insecure

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People who are insecure may lie to make themselves feel better. They may spread gossip and lie about their successes because they have an afflicted ego. We all want to have the support and a safe place to be our true selves. But if you want this, lying can't be part of the equation to achieve recognition. Write down what your best qualities are to oppose this when you feel precarious. For example, jot down 10 attributes and keep them on hand to remind yourself when you need affirmation and are tempted to lie. Over time you will grow in self-acceptance because we are all insecure, but we don't have to fall into a trap of using that as an excuse. If this is a pattern in your life or others, try to address it as it is destructive.

They Won't Overshare Information

Liars will not overshare information because revealing too many details could mean they overplayed their hand. They will twist accounts that have some truths to make you believe that they are legit. This a great way to sway you from decoding their dishonesty. Professor Aldert Vrij wrote the book, Detecting Lies and Deceit Good, and communicated that liars don't find it cognitively difficult to lie and they don't exhibit emotions like fear or guilt when they are lying. Liars who withhold information construct a story in deceit but are so good that you don't realize you're being lied to. It makes you think that they should've used their talents for acting.