The Fourth Truth
Regret is God calling us to forgive more and love with fewer conditions.
It is natural to hold onto regrets, replaying old incidents over and over again in our minds as if such demonstrations are indicative of the seriousness of our desire to make amends. This is a trap, however. We cannot change the past and wishing it were possible does not make us any more spiritual or worthy. As the 12 Step programs teach, of course we should make amends for what we can; accept what we can’t, and make the effort to discern the difference. Sometimes the only amends that are possible are to forgive more and love with few conditions. This doesn’t not only apply to others, however, but also to ourselves.