Adapted from The Way of Four: Create Elemental Balance in Your Life with permission of Llewellyn.
The Earth Person
The Earth person cares about what is real, physical, and experiential. She learns by doing. She doesn't care for "pie in the sky," and she isn't a dreamer. Her goals areachievable, and she is patient and methodical in working toward them. She likesthings that are real, things that she can touch; which will show even in her aesthetics.If she is an artist, she will be drawn toward things like sculpture, or toward handicrafts, which have a "product" as an end result.She loves her home, and although it may or may not be tidy, it is a welcomingplace, with comfortable chairs, plenty to eat, and pictures on the walls. The Earth person has a highly developed nesting instinct; her home is always a touchstone, she alwayswants to return to it, and being "settled" is her favorite state. She may very well live near where she grew up, as her sense of rootedness is quite meaningful to her.The Earth person commits readily-she doesn't experience much conflict whenchoosing to commit, and may not see it as having negative aspects. Her friendships, romances, and jobs will all tend to be long-lasting. She doesn't mind tedium, and is patient and tolerant of the "rough spots" in a relationship. Romantically, Earth peopleare marriage-minded; they think in the long term and are generally faithful. Theyare unabashedly physical and enjoy their sexuality.Earth people are at home in their bodies, not just sexually. They touch readily; ahand on the arm, a pat on the back, or a sympathetic hug are the natural communicationmedia of Earth. They enjoy the physical, even the vulgar, and they love to laugh.Earth people can be stubborn and bull-headed. They can refuse to change theirminds or their ways, even when they're obviously stuck and need to change. They canbe difficult to argue with, sticking to their position tenaciously for no other reasonthan it's their position. Likewise, an Earth person can be difficult to get out of the house.Earth people are the ones whose friends drag them to parties because otherwise they'djust stay in every night. Their lives can become an endless rut.Earth people also have an unfortunate tendency toward obesity. Although somelove to exercise, and recognize it as a basically physical activity, many don't-there's alot of Fire in exercise. Probably the unhealthiest Earth people are the ones who stayin terrible, even abusive, situations because they fear change. Agoraphobia-literallya fear of open spaces, but really closer to a fear of leaving the house-is a debilitatingEarth disorder.An Earth person can choose to become balanced, adding Fire, Water, and Air toher makeup for a happier and healthier life.
The Water person feels first and foremost. "Thinking never solved anything-onlyour hearts should be our guides!" She has a great facility with feeling; she is compassionate, caring, and a great listener. Water people can be wonderful therapists. They "go with the flow," but don't flit about like Air people. Their movements havea definite path, albeit an often unexpected one.The Water person's open heart makes her generous, and her empathy can makeher quite social, although not all Water people are "bubbly." She is often verydreamy, and can be mystical. Among magical folk, Water people might meditate, light incense, take steamy baths, wear consecrated herbbags, and so on. Water people are often artistic as well, and are especiallyfound among painters and musicians.Water people often move with a sensual grace that reminds one of their element,and often have wide, open eyes, the kind that look deep and liquid. Very Waterypeople often dress in flowing clothes or have flowing accessories. They can have amysterious quality that is compelling to those around them. Some Water peopleare dark, brooding, and perhaps even silent, an inward rather than outward Watermanifestation.Romance comes naturally to Water people; they give and receive love easily. Someshare themselves effusively, and some are very secretive, withholding information while being open with emotion. Perhaps surprisingly, not all romantic Water typesare particularly sexual; many find the physicality of sex to be a distraction fromlove's emotional and spiritual nature.All that feeling can lead to its share of problems. Depression and addiction areWatery illnesses, and flowing with dark, negative feelings can make some Water peopleirrational, or even psychotic. More likely, the Water person will simply be proneto tears, often needing to "get serious" at moments when others would prefer to belighthearted. They can be as inconsistent as the tides, changing their minds the way Earth people change their socks. Their wonderful sensitivity can go overboard, makingthem perceive every offhand remark as a major emotional statement.