It's Possible to Be Normal
Sharon Sanquist, a clinical psychologist in Melbourne, Florida, who works with children, believes it is important for parents to be honest with themselves and their children about their marriage since most children can sense when their parents are not happy together. “This may send a wrong message about love and marriage,” Sanquist says. “I have heard many children say that they wish that their parents would just get divorced because they cannot stand to see or hear the fighting between them.”
It’s messy, that question. Every couple must navigate through the mucky terrain in their own way given their own set of circumstances. I don’t think my parents’ divorce was what left me with so many colorful, interesting issues, so much as how their conflicts were handled and the baggage of growing up in an alcoholic home. My husband’s parents divorced and he hasn’t needed any therapy.