Most American parents focus on social development, cognitive growth and academic development. They are keenly invested in their child becoming No. 1 in school and in sports. There is nothing wrong with this, but research is increasingly showing that adults are sending the wrong messages to children. Harvard found during a study that kids are being taught the wrong values. “About 80 percent of the youth in our survey report that their parents are more concerned about achievement or happiness than caring for others.” The message of achievement has overshadowed being a good person. Society is reliant on future generations to take the reins to care for the community and to care for their fellow man. If we are producing children who are selfish, self-involved and cruel, the future is bleak. We can help kids reach healthy milestones so they will become a shining light. Here are 8 milestones that your kids need to reach.