You can never truly know the grief of another human being. But there are things you can do to help them deal with the pain.
When the people we love the most—our friends, family, and loved ones—grieve, our first instinct is to help them. Often, we rush to word or deed, failing to stop and consider the very personal, nuanced nature of grief. Other times, we remain silent, hoping that the absence of reminders will allow the grief to slip away.
Both routes can only drive the hurt deeper.
We must consider the person behind the pain, and the nature of their grief before we speak. We must also accept that nothing we can offer will take that grief away. Even the most perfectly worded condolence will not change what has happened to them. Forget that notion.
You’re there to let them know they’re not alone. You’re there to hurt with them.
To help you comfort your grieving loved ones in the best way possible, let’s get an inside look at grief by going through 8 things grieving people wish you knew.