The reality is that even as adults when we lose a parent or loved one it is a painful loss. It doesn’t matter if the relationship with that person had conflicts their death will still evoke a myriad of feelings. You may experience emotions around the fact there will always be unresolved issues with that person. After a death the grieving process may include periods of feeling numb, angry, shocked, sad, relief, guilt, regret, fear, rage, and depression. These are all normal emotions associated with loss. You may experience repeated cycles of this grief reaction depending on how you are coping with this loss. Adults understand all too clearly the finality of death and our inability to control or stop it. The most we can do is to offer a loved one comfort and support to help ensure that they die with dignity in a manner that honors their wishes.
The more significant the relationship, the greater the sense of loss and grief. Your grieving process is influenced by your personality, life experience, the nature of the relationship with the person you lost, how that person died, and ways you cope. People may respond differently to a sudden death than to a person who has a long and diagnosed illness. With all this in mind here are 5 tips to help enhance your understanding of grief and loss in adulthood.