"I just want to scream, run away, hid somewhere, or change my identity."
Caregiver Confession #8: "I just want to scream, run away, hide somewhere, or change my identity."
This is likely to happen to even the most patient caregivers. It's human to feel overwhelmed by the constant neediness of others. It's time to get some help with your caregiving so you can have a break. However, if you feel like this consistently, you should check with your doctor in case you are depressed or have other health issues of your own.
Caregiver Confession #9: "Maybe if I just take all of Mom's sleeping pills I won't have to wake up to this again."
Get thee to a doctor immediately. Even occasional thoughts like this can mean you are clinically depressed and feel life is hopeless. Please get medical help now.
Caregiver Confession #10: "She is suffering so much. She's been half dead for months. Why can't she just let go and die?"
Believe it or not, this is a common thought. You aren't a bad person. Why would you want to watch day in, day out suffering, where the quality of life, such as it is, is poor. Getting hospice care for the individual can help a great deal. Hospice staff counsels family members and they generally have volunteers who can help you. You need breaks, even if the care receiver could die when you are gone. You can't sit by their bed side every minute, for months. There are worse things than death, so drop the guilt. You aren't the only one who has had this thought.
"10 Caregiver Confessions: Secrets We Aren’t Proud Of" was provided courtesy of AgingCare.com and written by Carol Bradley Bursack
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